- Are you both mature adults? This is necessary for a good relationship - though it is not sufficient. Here is an interesting adultness test, to get you started. But don't assume a high schore is your ticket to success, in marriage, or anywhere else. This is a very abridged survey, and it's mostly for fun; though it can give young people a good idea of what it means to be "grown up". In reality, you should probably be in your mid twenties before you consider marriage. Marriages also work better when people have more education. See this article.
- Could you be happy/fulfilled without marriage?
- Why do you want to get married? What are you hoping to gain? What can you offer your partner in return?
- What marriages have you experienced personally? Did they result in happiness? What was good or bad about these marriages?
- Should a marriage be strictly between two people? Why? If not, replace the word partner with partners throughout this questionnaire.
- Can two gay people share a lifelong loving relationship? Should U.S. laws sanction their marriage, with the same privileges (e.g. joint healthcare and tax-free inheritance) and responsibilities (e.g. alimony) as any other couple?
- Do you believe the commitment takes place when you get engaged, or when you say "I do"?
- How important is the legal/religious institution of marriage, as opposed to a simple commitment between you and your partner?
- Do you believe it is helpful to live together first, before making a commitment? (Statistically, living together will neither hurt nor help your chances of success.)
- How do you feel about pre-nuptial agreements?
- Who will acquire whose last name, or will you keep your last names, or will you jointly adopt a new name? (Warning, there's plenty of paperwork involved in a name change.)
Sources from: http://eklhad.net/m-test.html
